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Not everyone thinks the raid on a Texas polygamist sect's compound last month was good for the hundreds of children taken by state authorities.

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Is the press misreporting the Texas polygamy case?

The disturbing polygamy and alleged child abuse case unfolding in Texas raises difficult questions about two ideals Americans hold dear: Religious freedom and child safety.

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Ben likes: Children of the cult

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My default position is that the authorities must not hesitate to go in to protect children who may be being abused. But I also have strong beliefs about the sanctity of the family, and believe that the state should interpose itself between family members only as a last resort -- which, obviously, an abusive situation requires.

But what is abuse? Is it always clear? Under the law, there's no doubt at all that having sex with underage teenage girls is by definition a crime, whether or not you call her your "wife." In the state of Texas, a person under the age of 16 cannot consent to marriage. And obviously, polygamous marriages are not recognized as marriages. If teenage girls are being forced into polygamous marriages and into sexual relationships, the state has a responsibility to get in there and stop it. If no one will protect those minors, the state must.

But. I've been trying to think about this situation in light of the fact that the fundamentalist LDS cult (Tom Wolfe says the difference between a "cult" and a religion is political power) is unpopular, and I certainly find their beliefs and lifestyle repulsive. But this is a free country, and as such, I have to tolerate a certain amount of repulsiveness; my own religious freedom depends on it, and so do yours. But tolerance can only go so far. 

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Joel likes: Kids' safety overrides First and Fourth amendments

Ed Kociela/Southern Utah Spectrum

As a hyper-proponent of the First and Fourth amendments, it took a long time, but, after looking at the facts carefully, it is impossible not to defend and praise Texas officials for removing more than 400 children from the Yearning For Zion ranch in Eldorado, Texas, owned by the Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints.

Look, I vigorously defend the First Amendment, which guarantees freedom of religion. I also vigorously defend the Fourth Amendment that guarantees that the cops can't bust down your door without reasonable cause. However, the facts speak for themselves:

  • Of the 53 girls between the ages of 14 and 17 who were removed from the Texas compound, 31 either already have children or are pregnant.
  • Texas authorities are now saying there is evidence that boys, as well as the young girls, may have been victims of physical or sexual abuse.
  • Medical examinations indicate that nearly 10 percent of the children have broken bones. In the real world, less than 1 percent of American children suffer a broken bone each year, according to one source.

These are, as Utah Attorney General Mark Shurtleff said, members of the FLDS church who "wouldn't be in Texas if we didn't kick them out of Utah." Shurtleff defends Utah and Arizona law enforcement, which was roughed up pretty good a few days earlier by Senate Majority Leader Harry Reid, D-Nev., who accused Shurtleff and his Arizona counterpart, Terry Goddard, of turning a "blind eye" to polygamy.

 

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Husband doing chores
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A husband doing chores? Take that, University of Michigan study!

Featured Topic | Posted 34 weeks 1 day ago

Battle of the sexes: Do men add to women's housework in marriage?

For married women who can't figure out why they always have so much housework researchers may have the answer -- husbands. A new study from the University of Michigan shows that having a husband creates an extra seven hours of extra housework a week for women. But a wife saves her husband from an hour of chores around the house each week.

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Ben likes: Men, women and the housework enigma

Tom Purcell/Cagle Post

The male mind doesn't care as much about the inside of the house as the outside. Our noggins are wired for larger spaces, such as the garage, the driveway, the yard. Sure, some men are neat freaks and homebodies and some women are sloppy and couldn't care less about the inside of their homes. But where biology is concerned, the male and female brains are different.

But the housework study isn't so interested in biological truths. It is more interested in one of its key findings: that the institution of marriage appears to change the division of household labor. In married relationships, even if an egalitarian viewpoint is present, men still report doing less housework than their wives, says George Mason sociologist Shannon Davis.

"Marriage as an institution seems to have a traditionalizing effect on couples -- even couples who see men and women as equal," she says. In other words, marriage itself is the reason women are forced to pick up stinky socks and wipe up the slop in the kitchen after dinner.

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Joel likes: Can you even the score on housework?

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Obviously, this plays out really different based on your class background or the type of relationship you are in, but consistently, both in my experience, the experience of my peers and others, the majority of house work falls on the shoulders of women. It is the assumed default position, that if it isn't done, than guess who is going to end up doing it.

Who is expected to do what in the household is extremely political and it isn't just a matter of convenience or someone whining more than the other. It is based on a historical division of labor that is the crux of the nation. Furthermore, when middle class women do not have the time to clean their houses, who do they hire to clean them? So still, today, the majority of house cleaning is done by women and mostly women of color. 

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How-to manuals for teens?

Featured Topic | Posted 36 weeks 4 days ago

How effective is abstinence-based sex ed?

Students who receive comprehensive sex education are half as likely to become teen parents as those who get none or abstinence-only sex education, according to researchers at the University of Washington.

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Ben likes: Cosmo says no to sex

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Joel likes: Sex, lies and stereotypes

Legal Momentum

There is substantial reliable evidence that abstinence-only programs fail to persuade young people to abstain from sex until marriage.

When youth schooled by abstinence-only programs do become sexually active,the programs’ anti-condom messages may actually discourage them from practicing safe sex, making the negative information the programs offer about contraception and disease prevention particularly dangerous. Such messages deny young people the opportunity to receive vital education to protect their health and well-being and, in particular, impede girls’ ability to avoid unwanted pregnancy and STIs to which they are more biologically susceptible.

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We're seeing fewer of these scenes.

Featured Topic | Posted 39 weeks 3 days ago

Why are fewer people having children?

The "demographic winter" is coming. So warns a new documentary of the same name. What is the demographic winter? The phrase, according to the film's promotional materials, "denotes the worldwide decline in birthrates, also referred to as the 'birth dearth,' and what that portends." The first half of Demographic Winter was previewed at the conservative Heritage Foundation a couple of weeks ago.

According the film, the demographic winter suggests little good, e.g., economic collapse and social deterioration. If current trends continue world population should begin a steep decline sometime around the middle of the 21st century.

Why? And is it true? Are overpopulation worries overblown?

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Ben likes: Creepy, short-sighted, (and ultimately juvenile) libertarianism

Joseph Knippenberg/No Left Turns

One of the things that makes us human is feeling and living up to responsibilities for others, which is manifest much more powerfully in child-rearing than even in marriage (especially if you’re talking about two "autonomous adults," each of whom is earning an income sufficient to support himself or herself). Ronald Bailey, the author of the Reason magazine article, seems to run away from adulthood because it isn’t much fun. The libertarians I respect are grown-ups who aren’t afraid of grown-up responsibilities.

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Joel likes: Missing: The 'right' babies

Katherine Joyce/The Nation

The nativist motivations for such campaigns move beyond the subliminal at times. Elizabeth Krause, an anthropologist and author of "A Crisis of Births: Population Politics and Family-Making in Italy," tracked that country's population efforts over the past decade and found politicians demanding more babies "to keep away the armadas of immigrants from the southern shores of the Mediterranean" and priests calling for a "Christian dike against the Muslim invasion of Italy." The racial preferences behind Berlusconi's "baby bonus" came into embarrassing relief when immigrant parents were accidentally sent checks for their offspring and then asked to return the money: the Italian government hadn't meant to promote those births.

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Is it worth the wait?

Featured Topic | Posted 42 weeks 14 hours ago

The Atlantic: Women should settle instead of staying single

Lori Gottlieb has some advice for women: Get married. Now. Before it's too late. And if you have to settle instead of finding the man of your dreams -- well, settle already!

Gottlieb's essay in The Atlantic has stirred up a hornet's nest of passion. Should women settle rather than staying single?

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Ben likes: Should you settle?

Rod Dreher/Crunchy Con

I do think it's true that folks generally in this culture have way too unrealistic expectations about what marriage is. Tolkien says married people are "companions in shipwreck." That is: don't believe what the movies tell you about Romance; be more practical than that.

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Joel likes: Women over 30 should marry anyone kind enough to have them

Jessica Valenti/Feministing

We all know that the media likes nothing better than a woman telling other women how miserable they're going to be without a man. And that's what makes nonsense like this so dangerous - its potential reach. Gottlieb has already been on the Today show touting her article and going head to head with (sigh) professional matchmakers. Who knows how much more media attention this piece will get.

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